Often when I fly the Captain makes an announcement for everyone to buckle up as there is a possibility turbulence. So what is turbulence and why the need to buckle up.
violent or unsteady movement of air or water, or of some other fluid.
a state of conflict or confusion.
The announcement of the “possibility” of turbulence is the key for me. Turbulence can not be seen by the pilot, only the right conditions that exist can be noted.
The effects of grief seem to oscillate between violent and sometimes just unsteady. Only the right conditions exist and that is the fact that you are grieving. How you might or might not react can not be predicted before hand. This is possibly one of the toughest part of grief that I struggle with. It is just so unpredictable.
As an example this evening when I was walking through the local mall and seeing all the Valentine’s Day displays brought me to tears. I found this to be strange as Yolanda and I never celebrated valentines as we always agreed that everyday should be valentines. I guess the turbulence in this case was just manifesting itself in another way. Just yet another reminder of our loss.
Turbulence is also described as a state of conflict or confusion. I couldn’t find a better comparison to grief. Conflict both internal and external. Confusion a permanent affliction.
So with all said and done it is time to buckle up, there is the possibility of turbulence on this journey as the conditions for its existence are ever present.